On our Facebook page, we included in our inaugural post a quote by Ann Landers when asked what she considered the most useful advice for all humanity, she responded:
“Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life, and when it comes, hold your head high. Look it squarely in the eye, and say, “I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me”
Living with ADHD or executive function issues (whether you have it yourself, or living with a spouse, child, teen with it) can produce many more challenges on a daily basis, and be like a constant unwelcome entity in a relationship or home environment. The experience has been described as running on a spectrum from mildly problematic to unmanageable. (Melissa Orlov, 2010. ADHD Effect on Marriage).
This is where Coaching and Psycho education can help.
ADHD is not well understood, largely due to misinformation based on limited understanding of the current science and clinical practice associated with its treatment. It is not just the domain of primary school boys climbing the walls, or hyperactive children eating too much sugar or “naughty” children who don’t receive discipline.
It is often, the little girl trapped in space and time in a book, that guy that is life of the party (but the party doesn’t always end or end well), the Mum that can’t have friends or their children’s friends over because the home looks like an unholy mess and is silently ashamed. Maybe it’s the work colleague with the motor mouth and giant ideas, the ideas that never get finished. The “I’m sorry I’m late friend, who couldn’t (a) find my keys, (b) charge my phone, (c) find my wallet. This is the friend who has all the worst luck in the world, regularly manages to get caught in bad traffic, or be driving behind slow trucks, old drivers. The friend who left the headlights on again and has a flat car battery (again) . Sound familiar?
Clients and their Executive Function (EF) Coaches look these challenges squarely in the eye. EF Coaching works with them to disentangle and disempower these challenges while empowering the client. The coach and the client (and their families) work together to engage motivation and identify strengths. This focus leads to moving through avoidance, addressing the fear of defeat and towards activation to positive change.
Together the client and coach build on the client’s abilities and potential for positive change to defeat trouble, one step at a time.
until next time